To Share Or Not To Share

By Sophie R - July 11, 2018


How much I share online and offline is always something that is more to the front of my mind rather than the back. Even more so these last couple of weeks where I've been contemplating creating and sharing a facebook page for my blog.


Some bloggers get some really good engagement through facebook and I've been wondering if the same could happen to me, however, I've run into the dilemma of my two worlds colliding. Of all my social media accounts facebook is the one that is mostly used to keep in contact with people in my offline world. Be that family, friends and even those people at school who weren't exactly the nicest of people, it's where I have them all saved as friends even if we haven't spoken in up to five years or more. So to link my blog to that all seems somewhat terrifying.

As much as sharing my online self with those offline makes me pause and doubt everything, sharing my offline world with those online feels much easier to do. I have friends I've made that I don't mind bringing into my offline world, more than those few that I've brought offline into my online world. As much as I want to say how strange it should be that this is the case, it really doesn't come as much as a shock as it seems to be the same for many people. The pressure of judgement, though always there in either world, doesn't seem as real in the online world as compared to facing it in the offline world.

But still, there's a line of how much we all share. And where is that line drawn?

For myself, I feel like the line is moving somewhat to let people from both sides cross over, opening a small door that only they can fit through. Though I've yet to meet anyone from online offline, there are some people who I really get along with who I'd love to meet in person sometime in the future [she says even though if it ever happened would still be an anxious mess], I've definitely brought some people from my offline world online, from my family to my close friends. It kind of gets hard to hide blogging from my family when I've got my camera and tripod set up in the garden taking outfit photos. Plus having those extra people that can help me with photos be that taking them or choosing the best edit can be rather helpful.

I'm really not sure where I'm going with this post, I kind of just needed to write it out to sort out my thoughts and get all of your opinions on how much we should share online, and still I can't seem to get everything I want to say into words that make coherent sentences. Plus I'm trying to get over the fear of people from school finding my blog and persuading myself to share the facebook page I've made for this blog.

The fear of people and judgement is one I might always have, but I'm definitely trying to get over it even if I'm slow to do so. I have a habit of doing things slow anyway.

Let me know any of your own opinions related to this ramble of a blog post, be that similar to mine or completely different.

- Sophie

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12 comments

  1. I've wanted to make a facebook page for ages but worry about it, I think I need to just bite the bullet and do it. I totally get where you're coming from though, crossing your 'real' life and online life can be scary!

    Lucy | Forever September

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    1. I think it's one of those things I'm going to have to do when my confidence is high and just live with the consequences the rest of the time ahah. I'm glad it's not just me then

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  2. I haven't made a facebook page for my blog.. mainly because I don't really use it and similar to you, I have my friends and family on there.. it is a little nerve wracking sharing something that means so much to me with people who's opinion mean a lot to me when the cross over of those worlds could go wrong (badly!). There are posts I want to share because, unknown to them, they've contributed to my writing of them and I suppose ultimately our online selves should be true to our offline selves (in my head anyway) and I'm going to try the mindset of 'what's the worst that can happen?!' Best of luck with whatever you choose xxx

    emsirose.blogspot.com

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    1. I think I'm going to have to try that mindset as well. I don't know which self if my truer self but I like to think that both are me and I've got to figure out how much I let my shields down to either side. Thank you Ems!

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  3. I just got rid of all my old Facebook friends one day! I doubt most of them have even noticed honestly. Now my Facebook is almost entirely inactive (maybe 2 or 3 people on my Friends List) and I just use it for its messenger to talk to my family.

    I get what you mean - but probably not in the same way as you. On my blog, I'm the most "myself" because I use it as a therapeutic safe space for me to write about literally whatever I want to at the time, without worrying about anybody else's opinions. A personal blog for myself more than anybody else, rather than a blog with business intentions. So I don't feel bothered about anybody in my offline world finding my blog because it's the real me, and I have no intentions of hiding who I am. However, it is very personal and I feel SOME people discovering my blog would inhibit my ability to write as freely on it as I do now. People act more emotionally and sensitively toward people they know in person versus people they don't, and I don't want my blog to get out of control in the comments sections (especially seeing as I'm becoming interested in writing posts about my opinion on controversial topics...)

    Since your blog is more professional though, I don't think there would be any problem with your offline people discovering your online presence!

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    1. That is all very true! I've been unable to write many personal posts on here since I know my friends and family sometimes read my blog. Though for my friends I'm not overly bothered I sometimes worry what my mother would think of somethings I want to write since I don't really talk personal feelings much. Think I should just try to be who I am in side with everyone [that kind of sounds like something out of a Disney movie aha]

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  4. I have made different youtube accounts, email, facebook etc just so my family and hometown friends don't see my blog.
    I'm able to share with strangers online and I think it will stay like that forever lol

    I think it's just natural for many bloggers or anyone who wants to pursue youtube or being well known on IG.

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  5. I've been thinking about this a lot recently too. I don't think I want Facebook to have anything to do with my blog as it feels like my two worlds crossing over too much, but everyone on Instagram knows about it so I don't know why it feels like such a big deal haha x
    Alys
    https://alysjournals.com

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